Dos and Don’ts
DON’T
DO
Don’t dilute a centuries-old lineage.
Do honour it by choosing a Parsi-Irani spouse who too carries its sacred weight.
Don’t gamble with clearly evident extinction. The world has lost many ancient cultures through internal culpability.
Do strengthen our Religio-Cultural chain by marrying with a Parsi-Irani, who too bring along their family’s Parsi-Irani chain.
Don’t sever the thread our noble ancestors protected by giving up their lives.
Do weave it forward with someone who understands its worth.
Don’t forget the vows your forebears kept even when they faced adversity.
Do keep faith with the people who carried you to this moment.
Don’t abandon the identity they died to defend.
Do stand where they stood as heroes and heroines with the same resolve. Be like them.
Don’t let their sacrifices fade into statistics.
Do add meaningfully to the surviving statistics with your unflinching continuity.
Don’t imagine survival happens by accident.
Do recognise that survival is a choice every generation is responsible to renew.
Don’t treat heritage as optional.
Do treat it as the architecture of your being.
Don’t assume culture will preserve itself.
Do preserve it through the most practical act — marrying within our Religio-Culture.
Don’t marry where our acclaimed Religio-Cultural values will be diluted.
Do marry where such values will be amplified.
Don’t choose a path that will condemn your children to lifelong confusion.
Do choose a path that provides passion to amplify their priceless ancient lineage and identity.
Don’t fool yourself in building family with conflicting Religio-Cultura-Spiritual compasses, or none.
Do build one where both parents can point to the same Sun who is revered as the Son of God in the Persian Solar calendar and whose attributes are clearly described scripturally.
Don’t ignore the wisdom of ancient peoples like ours.
Do learn from those who survived by staying united.
Don’t dismiss the Endogamous practices of brave Druze and Yazidi people who too practice endogamy (wedlock within their own Faith) despite being surrounded by severe adversity.
Do recognise their rationale that for small ethnicities to survive, Endogamy is the smart way to ensure continuity learnt from the wisdom that the bloodlines of those who don’t practice it, simply vanished into oblivion as has been happening with Parsi-Irani.
Don’t pretend we are exempt from demographic reality.
Do follow proven methods of wise peoples who refused to disappear, from learning how others were disappearing.
Don’t fracture the community further.
Do help rebuild its centre of gravity.
Don’t betray the identity you inherited.
Do honour it with the choices you make.
Don’t be the generation that let the flame die.
Do be the generation that rekindled it.
Don’t walk away from your people.
Do walk forward with them.
Don’t assume your children will “figure it out.”
Do give them a foundation they don’t have to fight for.
Don’t imagine mixed-faith children will hold the line you couldn’t.
Do recognise that identity weakens when diluted.
Don’t be taken-up by modern marketing showing mixed-relationships. They are trying to reach all audiences at low cost.
Do be smart to discern around you just how many are cross-culturally mixed and extrapolate what your grandchildren could be. Long-known way or mixed-up way?
Don’t let the world tell you your roots don’t matter.
Do remember that a tree without roots is firewood.
Don’t rely on hope.
Do rely on history, logic, and precedent.
Don’t forget you are the last guardians of a rare inheritance.
Do act as if the future depends on you — because it does.
Don’t be the generation that apologised for its own existence.
Do be the generation that stood tall and unashamed.
Don’t treat marriage as a private choice alone.
Do see it as a covenant with those who came before and those yet to come.
Don’t let the river of your people run dry.
Do widen it with every child who carries the flow of Holy Fire-inspired fervour forward.
Bottomline is: Please don’t weaken our statistically endangered Religio-Cultural-Spirituality with your carnal culpability. Carnal will only last a few years.
"Above the Line is to strengthen our culture by choosing a spouse from within our Faith, because eventually, being Religio-Culturally-Spiritual is far better than carnal. Where carnal cannot even compete, spirituality will carry your head well in this life as well as your next lives."